Matt, I love your last post. Could not have said it better myself. I wanted that for me and my H, too. Growing old together. Taking care of each other. That IS what it's all about. And even though I have been through this mess, I still believe in it.
I'm sorry you're dealing with all this stuff at once. But, I know you can handle it. Keep writing...
Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15