Wife Walked Away 10 Weeks Ago

[Bob723]

mahhhty,

I have read all of Sandi's LBH posts on both threads. Excellent posts by her and an excellent suggestion by you!

So, in your previous post, you asked if I could elaborate on this text from my W:
Listen, before this phone goes out, I don't want to leave things on bad terms. I would like to be on good terms after all this is over. If you can keep the townhouse, that would be great because then you could save the tree that has meant so much to both of us. I think we are both getting stressed out with this whole thing, I personally would like to get it all done as soon as possible. But the more paperwork, the longer and longer it streches out costing you more money! It's your choice. Take care of yourself as well, I hope you will have a good future.

My take on it is she wants to remain "friends" after our divorce is final. We have a townhouse. A few weeks ago the judge decided she would have 60%/40% equity in our home (we still have a mortgage). I believe my W brought up the point about our home because later she admitted, after I said I'd like her to have the home, that she couldn't afford to buy me out -- even at 40%. She has put so many personal touches on our home, e.g., painted clouds in our living room that look SO real and many other creative things like that. My belief is that she doesn't want to lose the house. My therapist, believes she'll want me back someday.

Who knows, right? So does anybody have any advice as to how I should reply to the part where she writes "I would like to be on good terms after all this is over."? Most posts here suggest saying "No thanks" to that. But please remember I'm still hopeful we can reconcile, but I realize more than ever how important it is for me to appear to have moved on and be a more confident guy.

I feel she's looking for a safety net -- me.

Thanks all!