Ok, so, good on you for how you handled that. I know you could have run away with all of it.
I hope you know by now that I have your back. So, here are my thoughts.
Could she have realized stuff? Yep. Absolutely. Could it also include being hurt by him? Yea. It didnt turn out the way she thought it would. There will be some withdrawal she needs to deal with from him.
I dont want you to be blindsided again. Sometimes this happens when an affair ends and divorce is starting. They get scared and confused.
So, you are exactly right in taking it slowly and having your guard up.
Be careful with regard to your son. You dont want him getting his hopes up and then the rug is pulled out from under him.
I know that these are things you have wanted to hear, but, please keep your wits about you.
Im not so sure I would push her on the confession thing, Luke. That has to be something she wants to do.