Oh man, you guys.... this guy has got me fired up. Well... almost.. but I am holding my ground not letting it get the best of me. I am flexing those muscles I have toned over the past few months. They are stronger! But, he's is in such denial. When I step back and look at it- I see some repeat pattern.
Oh! 2B... thank you. I am so glad I am getting better, mentally and emotionally. It does help me be stronger for my kids. And I am able to help them through- really and truly, bc I have been through it, know how they feel, and have developed my own arsenal of tools. My kids are so ready to get away, and man, I am too.
But this guy is on a roll today. First this morning with d14... and the saga continues. D14 said she didn't say anything to xh about hanging up on her or anything. Just the way he likes it- pretend it didn't happen. She just realized the bus hadn't come and had him drop her off at the bus stop.
It stirred me up this morning. I was pretty upset for a little bit. But I got it together for the day. Then on the way home, I started to feel some of that anger which I haven't felt for a little while now.
Then, s18 told me when I got home that his dad texted him, "Now I'm pissed." That's after he was calling s18 and s18 kept letting it go to voicemail. S18 said it didn't bother him and he just doesn't care. I know that not entirely true, but I do know my kids don't have high expectations anymore of their dad. But, I know my son is hurt.
S18 asked me, "I don't have to consider him a parent anymore, right? I mean, what does it matter? What's he gonna do? Do I have to even listen to him?"
I just explained that xh is really "pissed" bc he can't control the situation. That if s18 is upset, he has a right to be disappointed by his actions. That he has made choices which have been hurtful to him and his sister and they have a right to be upset. And to just give it some time and not to let xh's lashing out bother him. I told him to just be calm and cool and let xh deal with it and figure things out for himself.
