It's hard to realise these things we have done, and know that we could have done them differently or done them better. But I am glad for you that you are reflecting on some of this and seeing your own contributions.
This is really important, because it helps us move forward and become better people. Putting yourself in your W's shoes and understanding how this may have felt isn't easy. But one of the things they say on the forum is that a WAS won't return to the same M - something has to become different.
Reflecting in the way you are doing, is a step towards changing. And whether or not this saves your M, it will mean an improved Joe going forwards. A Joe who doesn't hurt his W, who listens to her, who gives and takes, and is positive, goes with the flow and takes responsibility for his own problems. That's a guy who many women would love to be with.
Good luck on your journey my friend....
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
