Who are the ones who lost trust with her? Stable and loyal relation partners, or singles who were outraged at the depth of her actions?
Stable loyal relation partners - Me, her past friends, and her entire family, especially her mother. All of her energy seems to have gone to her new friends from AA, apparently especially OM. Avoided everyone because of this.
Originally Posted By: DaddyLongShanks
When they are double lifing like this, in the manner required to perform a successful affair, they can literally "say" anything which is required to cause an outcome.
Yes this is the battle I have been attempting to overcome. The big reason why I do not trust anything from her.
Originally Posted By: DaddyLongShanks
Your still banging someone who was just recently with someone else. You have to look @ it the way she does.
I understand.
Originally Posted By: DaddyLongShanks
She probably thinks love is like an obsession or being a fan or seeing a fine dressed man in the club. She doesn't know what real love is like, true of 99% of affair participants. Love is not lust, love is passion, love is love.
Possibly. Either that or she does not understand long term relationships/stages of marriage, or both. It is either the things she says are true 100% with her to me and always have been, or she is justifying her recent actions. I would like to think the latter and that is what I have been doing.
Originally Posted By: DaddyLongShanks
You should probably participate in a few of these sessions to guage his viewpoint. Alot of the counselours shoot after the immediate reaction of making someone "feel better", so they may very well justify their foul actions.
Are you saying the IC?
Originally Posted By: DaddyLongShanks
You don't need patience here. Make her suffer consequence and loss. Cheaters don't understand anything when they are supplicated.
Best of luck to you and I'm not trying to bring you down, just bring you back out into yourself. You should never tolerate anyone "cheating" on you unless you went into it and decided it together with an open mind. It's a very painful and hurtful situation to endure.
