My other thread has been locked so I guess I need to create a new one here..!
My current situation seems to be in its endgame. W is clearly "at the height" of her A. I had indicated on Tuesday night that I would no longer complain about her staying out late. She seized on this. So on Wednesday, she didn't come home until midnight, and then after leaving on Thursday morning she didn't come back until Saturday midday, and then only for ten minutes (to get new clothes) and not again until midnight on Sunday (last night) having spent the entire time every day and night with OM (their workplace had Friday off). That is-- I moved her stuff into the living room on Thursday morning; she didn't notice until Saturday and didn't use it until Sunday night.
Sunday night (last night) I was awake when she came in, but only briefly. She commented on how happy I seemed (and I was-- I'd had a good day) and I wasn't cold or unnecessarily distant, but I didn't engage her in conversation and I shortly repaired to my bedroom, closed the door, and fell asleep, without saying good night.
This morning I set my alarm for half an hour after I knew she'd be gone. And she was indeed gone. Which means that moving her into the living room sent the right message.. the weather was abysmal this morning, and on any other day she'd have asked me for a ride to the train station (a 1-mile walk).
Tonight I get home at midnight because I'm teaching my class. Tomorrow we have our MC session... which could very well be our last. I didn't cancel it because it's essentially the only time we'll have seen or talked with each other since Thursday morning. I intend to use my own version of the "three sentences", which I think are in line with the boundaries discussion from my previous thread:
"I would prefer that we stay together and work out our differences. But you're right, that is impossible. So tonight we will divide our assets, and tomorrow we'll file the D papers."
