Surviving Infidelity

[2chiquitos]

I just realized I posted this a year ago. I have come such a long way since then.

I no longer feel the need to get him to know exactly how I felt or went through during that time. To reiterate 25, dont focus on the past.

The MC, I havent pursued. I continue to go to Al Anon and that has helped tremendously. Ive learned that I cant change others, I can only change myself. Dont stress. Keep it simple. I wont be the perfect mother, daughter, partner, friend, employee. If I strive for perfection, I will neglect one of my roles.

I continue working on my temper. I practice positive discipline with my kids and when I loose my temper, I backpedal.

I make time for myself, for my kids and for my partner. We go on date nights and now I plan them. I cant expect him to be romantic and surprise me with a well thought out date night. He will always chose a dinner and movie. Which is why I plan it ;-)

I continue to have demons that haunt me from the past but I have learned that I can address them one at a time and not all at once. THe decisions I make today are not set in stone but what I need to maintain my serenity. When I am ready I will tackle the next thing on the list.

For now, I just dont want to stress and I want to make time for my partner and my kids. Ive learned that life is too short to stress about work and the past.

I am ready to be more active on the board and look forward to reading others posts. I always think of everyone who has gone through these boards and I pray that you will all find your purpose in this journey towards recovery.