Thanks for all the comments everyone. I think we are nearing this thread becoming locked so I will start a new one.
As ever you're all right. I don't feel bad in any way at all if I get criticism here. I appreciate it all and try to implement your advice whenever I can.
I understand I need to rebuild her trust.
We went out for a meal on Friday with the kids and that should have gone some way to slowly restoring her trust. I feel rough at the moment, rather than being back at the start line, I feel like the start line has been moved back somewhat and I'm further than ever from getting where I would like to be.
I really need to get a grip of my emotions/reactions. I believe that since last week I've begun to do that. Of course, as you've all said, it will take time for my W to see and believe that.
BD - 30TH JAN 2015 S - 30TH JAN 2015 PA CONFIRMED - 16TH FEB 2015 (SINCE AT LEAST OCT 2014) CONTINUAL TALK OF D ME: 31 W: 28 T: 10yrs M: 4.5yrs D:5, S:6