I am not terribly sure where to go with the attraction aspect. It was never about not doing housework (cooking, cleaning, laundry, child care, home improvements, groceries) or things for her, aside from seemingly doing too much of it (her claim of insufficiency). Maybe I was doing too much . . .
Yeah, that's more of what I was alluding to. While most (all?) women WANT -- and rightfully expect -- their husbands to do more around the house, it's generally an attraction turn-off if the man does TOO MUCH, especially if it's coming across as supplicating or as a "mental transaction" to get something in return (like sex).
I would try to take one of your old "beta" behaviors a week and replace it with one new "alpha" behavior, as an experiment. Then monitor the results.
