Married young, W had affair w/ coworker Pt. 3

[Wonka]

UC,

I am so sorry to read this. What can you do? W simply wants out and that move to another state is a pretty bold statement.

Although I have to say that 25's husband went Alaskan and stayed away for 2 years. Granted, they had kids which forced them to communicate on logistics and issues as they cropped up. With you, there are no "ties" between you two that would force you and W to communicate.

Tough. I know.

Take care of yourself. Being around friends at this stage will do your PMA wonders. Nothing like being around friends and family during very trying times.

[UpperCu]

Hey Wonka, thanks for dropping in to say hi. :-)

To give some more context, W has been planning to move out of state once she finished her grad program, so it wasn't necessarily a big statement on her part to move - just a natural next step for her career. I've been on board with the plan to move too and was planning to move with her wherever she got a job.

I guess the bold statement is that she accepted a job that would involve her working with OM on a daily basis, which was my primary condition on what needed to change if I were to agree to reconcile the M. But I'm not willing to compromise on that and I think no M is better than an open M.

I'm facing my own relocation decisions that don't involve W which is the biggest thing for me now. Right now I feel like I'm standing on the edge of the diving board looking at the murky water below, unsure if I should make the plunge into what's next. I know I need to jump but I haven't yet. Once I make the leap I'm sure things will begin to look up.

[Jefe]

I'm sorry to hear this, UC.

Prayer works. Keep it up and keep working on being an awesome you.

[UpperCu]

Thanks Jefe! I've been very encouraged by the many people in my life praying for our marriage. I know God's work on a person's heart can take some time.

W emailed me the other day out of the blue updating me on separation stuff. She had already responded to this email I sent a couple weeks ago but apparently realized she left a few things off when she initially responded.

Attorney has had some delays on getting the separation agreement sent out. Should go out this week.

[Jefe]

UC, our sermon today was on prayer. What/how/when/for whom/why etc and why we don't pray for others like we should. One of the things he emphasized as being God's will was relationships/marriage. He said the prayer circles should do more praying for marriages than for peoples health, even. I wholeheartedly believe that.

Keep praying for her relationship with God and keep praying for your marriage. I don't agree with some here when it comes to prayer for your marriage - there is really no such thing as "selfish" prayer as long as you have the "authority" to pray. As a husband you have the absolute authority and duty to pray for your spouse.

Start praying the hedge of thorns that I mentioned to you before and Google: Rejoice Ministries.

Keep praying my friend. Pray that she will begin to turn towards those that pray for her and away from those that prey upon her.

[Wet]

^^^ that's good counsel Jefe. Nice prayers also.

[UpperCu]

Thanks for the site(s) Jefe. I pray for my W and our M each day, but I have been filled with an overwhelming burden to pray more often for the sitch this past week.

I'm praying right now for my W to be filled with overwhelming sadness in the A, and to be filled with overwhelming joy in Christ. Our M is a representation of Christ's love for the church, and W even acknowledged she recognized my love for her was Christlike before she moved out.

I'm praying for your sitch as well Jefe.

[UpperCu]

Some of W's grad school friends extended an invite tonight to hang out. She is currently out of state. I obliged to hang out. Had a fun time and they all asked about my GAL stuff. Seems like they all thought I would be in the pits, but it felt good to be going strong with my own life. I had a good time and no one even mentioned W all night.

Intel shows W will be in town this weekend... Haven't heard anything about the S agreement from W or Atty this week. She should be receiving, signing, and returning it soon.

[Complex]

Glad to hear you have a good time and move on. Good thing you are even able to hang with mutual friends and they don't even mention W and enjoy your company.
Keep praying. I'll pray now too

[Jefe]

How's it going UC?