So a little tough love and boundaries set again last night. She would not let me keep the kids full time. Which at this point is fine. Kids seem fine. Just a little worried about where there going to live next week.
In a quick discussion last night. I got told that there not together and I just don't understand the situation. Ha ha. I was as calm as I could be but had to take a couple of real hard deep breaths. I was told that she really still wants to work on our marriage and she understands that OM can't be in her life at all. Told me that we need to sit down and discuss every thing in a very serious convo and needs to be soon. She mentions she might be able to rent a town home.
Boundaries set a little stricter this time. With OM staying at your place now I am to understand you are still together. So if kids come to live at my place she can pick them up anytime but is not welcome to sleep at my house. Nor if he is still in her life can I help her move anything. On her own now. ( this was a little scary doing that because we have to clean this place and she hasn't even started to pack anything in less then ten days away). Also found out that apparently court date is still on for June 10. And she wants to stop it. As in we need to stop this it can't happen.
Come this morning. Calls me to request a child support check she accidentally ripped a couple of weeks ago. Told her that's fine swing by and pick it up but we need to discuss these checks depending on what happens. She agrees and says we need to really sit down. Give her the check and she accuses me of going back to the old angry person now. I calmly tell her I'm not and tell her I am just sick of being to lies. She says yes you are now your not even going to help me. I said not if your with OM. She says what does it all matter the kids tell me you have a girlfriend. So it won't work anyways. I say no I don't and they told me that as a joke to you. Her again doesn't matter I don't need your help I'll figure it all out on my own. I wish her luck and a good day.
So why does it feel bad to not help this person? Should I feel bad? She is being manipulated. On Thursday she was all good. In came OM turned her all around and bad again. And now she is trying to cake eat. By getting my help. Am I wrong? How should I be acting? I think I'm right. Wow!
All I know is if she is not moved out by this weekend. I'm going to have to help her. House gets sold on the 6th.
What to do?
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M36/W30 S13,D10,S6 Married 4.5 together 12 Bomb 1/14 EA/PA OM 1/14 still going Served 2/14/14 Separated 3/14 D paused 6/14 6/15 divorced
