I have been keeping up with the changes I have made. She seems to be a little reluctant to go out and do things with me in public at the moment, aside from when our son is in the mix. Might just be getting into a new norm with her meetings and schooling, nervous in general, or the likes. I do not let it get to me, I just go do something for myself then. She is going through a tough time.
There are so many different ways people can come into contact these days, that it is difficult to really keep up with everything, if at all possible, especially when they have plenty of time to themselves during the day. About all I feel like I can do is give her some trust in that area to hold onto my sanity. If I notice something that feels out of the ordinary, then I will bring them up letting her know it feels like something is up.
I am not terribly sure where to go with the attraction aspect. It was never about not doing housework (cooking, cleaning, laundry, child care, home improvements, groceries) or things for her, aside from seemingly doing too much of it (her claim of insufficiency). Maybe I was doing too much, though I would ask her to do these things, but I do have a time frame when I feel like they need to be done, and I would say it is reasonable. I always show my appreciation when she does do stuff around the house. About all I feel like I can do is listen, validate, and communicate with her better, be more passionate (towards her and life) and express my feelings better. These are things she has brought up to me as problem areas, and I have been doing and sticking with them. I suppose I have always just been silently passionate about everything, leaving the results of my actions to be noticed (or not) at her own discretion, she needs more words to go with them. I always do compliment her (daily), help her when she asks for it, asks if she needs help with anything, suggest doing activities with her. Difficult to do the fun novelty things like going out to new places or a long weekend somewhere with work, her school, her meetings, and a child. Have to find time somewhere. Trying. Maybe I can just surprise her with something....even though she claims she hates surprises.
Any suggestions, and I am all ears. If keep doing what I am doing and be patient is the answer, then that works for me too.
