Claire learning to accept

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I just read mozza's post to you and I agree with him.

My thoughts, you have a lot of fear.

'Well, duh?' you might think but ask yourself when you haven't felt fearful? When have you felt OK in your own skin? When have you felt good enough?

Fear often keeps up from making positive changes.

The exercise you did was pretty good. I wanted much the same "R". But I expected to have it with me putting in little work and him putting in a lot of work.

But when I started being honest about my R skills, I saw how crappy they were. I was doing what I'd learned to do, the same way I learned to tie my shoes or make my bed, without much thought.

Finally I figured out that in order to have the kind of partner I wanted, I had to be the kind of partner I wanted. We were S for over 3 years so we did some coparenting (older kids yes but there's still stuff to do). To have the coparenting R I wanted I had to be the coparent I expected from him.

This is true of all our Rs. We have to be what we would like others to be, honest, compassionate, strong, open.

Bravo for signing up for mindfulness training. Which class are you taking?