Nothing I say will change his view of himself or of me. But his view of me does not need to be MY view of me... and I also don't need to feel obligated to try to *change* his view of me.
I also cannot have ANY expectations of him. And just because he can't act in ways that I want him to doesn't mean that I shouldn't act according to my values.
He lets off his frustration about how annoying and complicated co-parenting life is to me. So be it.
I can own the part of his frustration that feels appropriate. And just let it be. Let him be someone else's problem.
It's taking SO MUCH right now to curb my desire to just tell.him.off. To tell him that this is all HIS CHOICE and d@mn right it's hard and complicated.
But I"m holding it in.
Claire, this is so good.
You can tell him what you feel, but do it with the voice of the Claire you want to show to the world.
Last edited by labug; 03/23/1502:42 PM.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
