Right now, "hate and spew" is going to be what you get from her regardless, Kramer. So you may as well protect yourself financially -- especially your long-term financial FUTURE.
In every situation, and every interaction with her, strive to DO THE RIGHT THING. Rather than worrying "How will she react? Will she be angry? How will her reaction make ME feel?"
Do the thing that God Himself would have you do, if He were standing right in front of you.