Sorry to hear about your stitch. Whenever I read about a WW pressing her H not to bother with lawyers, it's usually b/c she plans to get more than she knows she could if he has legal representation.
Sandi,
I agree wholeheartedly. In this case, about $200k.
Let me ask you something else, based on your unique WW insight. My W has grown so cold and detached since her A in Septembrr and my discovery on NYE. Instead of trying to fix our problems, she jumped straight to D upon discovery and has not wavered. At first, I assumed that it was so she could be with OM, and to mitigate her guilt. Indeed, she is already telling people at work that she is divorcing me because she has been miserable for years, and has "just met" this other guy.
However, it doesn't make sense. She now has to work every other weekend to pay bills, and only sees OM every other weekend. She actually sees him less now than when they were sneaking around. Does she truly hate/resent me that much to want to divorce so quick? Or is she biding her time to make herself look less guilty? Or perhaps OM is having doubts at a full-on relationship now that the secret's out.
Regardless of reason, is there anything that I can/should be doing differently? I am no longer communicating with her and will have L handle divorce. This will pi$$ her off and I'm sure I won't hear anything from her ever again, other than hate and spew.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
