All that is happening here is that like you as I read I am rebalancing, questioning and putting perspective on my sitch and my own behaviour. After reading three or four books then generally a view of my own. That is why it is good to take notes.
I find that if i go back and reread my own thread and questions that many of the answers will fall into place but some questions still remain. These are things that need work.
The other main piece of action is to forgive yourself, whilst the effects of what was done were unintended (you were attempting another result perhaps) then damage was done. We can never go back and undo a single thing we did, the past is gone. Today is all you have, take care of today.
Know this too, WW does what she does as a result of her own desicions. She chose her waywardness. Her decision not yours. Of course some of the things you have said or done may be damaging to your M but this is WW choice. I have been very badly abused, neglected and pushed away by an aggressive wilful H but despite all that I am not wayward. I am not involved in an affair. So you see we have a choice.
With knowledge Joe you are going to make more life affirming choices?
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
