Sandi, I have a question for you.

I am reading your original threads. Frankly I am very impressed with who you are and what you've done. Yes, you were a WW. But you came to these boards, got help, and seem to have done the work needed to restore your M. I haven't gotten through them all so maybe there were some serious backslides. But honestly I think you are in the minority of WWs.

What struck me is that even while you were in your WW state, you seemed to understand it was a fog or an addiction. You were battling with what you felt and what you knew to be right. You were trying hard to steer towards loving your H again.

Do you think most WW's are aware of this? Or do you think they are trying hard not to look at it so they don't even realize how foggish they are?

I guess it doesn't much matter. I'm just going through a tough time. It's sad. Whatever the reason it's sad. But I do appreciate you linking your thread, more than anything you could paraphrase it's inspiring to see what you went through. I know I'm humbled about my failures as an H seeing how hurt you'd been by the disconnection over the years. I am just sad that your M is such an exception to the vast majority that cause too much damage and don't come out of the fog until it's far too late.


Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15