I am finding out that I am sensitive and do over-react when stressed out. I believe these things did cause issues in my marriage. I know I have over-reacted at quite a few things in our past. This could have felt like emotional abuse to my wife. I just started reading a book about detachment and codependency. Something the writer said caught my attention. She talked about how angry her father was all the time. When I read about some of the things her father got angry about, it made me think. I think I was similar to this person's father. I remember thinking I had a anger problem a long time ago. I remember reading a book about it. I also remember getting upset at little things that the kids did or getting upset because my wife did not do something when I thought she should have. Now that I am remembering these things, I am starting feel terrible.
I very well could have enabled her addiction! I can see how she could be addicted to the feelings she is getting from what she is doing. All along I thought I was providing her a good life and actually she was just hanging on. I am starting to see things differently now. I think she has held in all these hurts and they just came about with all these changes that happened. Or we have reached a point where all the negatives I have done are out weighing the positives in our relationship?
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
