Mozza (10) + Links to success stories

[Mozza]

T0324 | Thanks a lot. You've obviously caught up on my sitch and I much appreciate it. Thanks for your input on the dating thing. It seems that several people receive a confidence boost from it. I'm willing to go down this road and see what happens.

OM moved in officially on January 1. But since mid-October, the kids would tell me that he was there four to seven days a week, even in the morning. I completely agree that living together takes the thrill out of a relationship. I've experienced it (I remember strong arguments with WW just a couple of weeks after we moved in, 10 years ago) and I've read relationship advice that mention it as a passion killer. In one, a woman says that she made love with her second H every time they saw each other for the first five years, to which he replies that they didn't live together at the time. In fact, it tells me that my W still doesn't think that our M went down because of the "indignities of life" (it's from David Foster Wallace and I think it nails it) but because of our fundamental incompatibility. I'm glad she gets to test that assumption.

It's interesting to know that your H's trip was canceled even after the plane tickets were bought. I admit that it's not really a scenario that I consider, especially because it's a wedding in OM's family (so he's going) and it will be WAW semi-annual visit to her parents (so she's going). Anyway, we'll see.

Pink17 | What a warm message. Thank you so much for your kind words. You are right that I feel stronger; I'm in a good place these days. I'm glad that it radiates here. It probably does in real life too. Like you, I'm affected by my encounters with WW, so it feels good to cut her out.
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GAL Report | It was D7's birthday weekend! I'm so proud of all that we've done. We went to my parents twice, which is heaven on earth for D7. We went to see D7's godparents and D3's godparents in another city too. We went to a pool and D7 jumped from a spring board for the first time (and I jumped from the 3 meter one and it was terrifying!). We stopped to a huge toy store and gave them a small budget to buy whatever they wanted. I gave D7 really nice gifts and she was excited.

PMA Report | I welled up once or twice this weekend, but didn't really cry, evidence of how GALing really does help. The sitch was on my mind, but Saturday for instance, it wasn't discussed until the kids were in bed. I can definitely focus on other stuff and enjoy the moment.

Detachment report | Drum roll please.... I've unfollowed WW on Instagram! So far, I've hidden her posts on Facebook and unsubscribed from her blog, and this was the last big step that I couldn't take earlier because her account is protected, meaning I can't snoop anymore. Well, I don't want to any longer. I really don't want to know that she's up to. The last thing I saw was a picture of four plus toys (carrot characters) with two parents and two kids, taken on her sofa. She's playing family with OM. I don't need to know this. Flushed. Yay!