Alpha - rollercoasting #3

[alpha99]

Thanks twinmom, I needed that. I did say I wasn't taking anything said to heart but I have been pondering it - probably too much. My W has left me. That is hard to type, hard to accept, but there it is sitting there looking at me. I will apply DB/DR techniques, live my life, and see what happens as it happens. Easier said than done I know but that's the intention anyway. I do feel I am slowly getting there. It's a long road but I have all the time in the world.

I have been reading about Plan A, Plan B, and a few other things from various sources. One thing that reoccurs time and again is that no WAS is going to find LBS attractive if he sits around waiting and hoping that things will work out. I believe through today's conversation I have set the wheels in motion to show that (although I didn't state I didn't want R) I am not just sitting around waiting for WAS to come to her senses.

Oh, I forgot to add: any suggestions for when W comes back with a text with watered down parenting plan (probable outcome) or refuses point blank to let me have them (also highly likely)? She said she would never stop me from seeing them but at the moment she doesn't want me to have them on my own. I was thinking of toughening up a little, turning the screw on her a little. I don't want to go down the solicitor route (mainly because I don't have the money for it right now) but anything else would be on the table as an option.