For the Newcomer LBH who has a wayward wife Part 2

[Joe46]

I guess I am confused on what my choices of action are now. What I do effects our kids. This is why I have been doing alot of thinking. She stated, in our argument after I switched me cell phone, "I am not leaving". So my only other choice is for me to leave. Than I look like I abandoned my kids. My actions lately have been to avoid her as much as I can. I spend alot of time in my room at night. I find other activities to keep busy. I have been getting more involved in things around town. If I tell her she has to leave, this will definitely be more of the same for me. The first years we were together, I would tell her that when we got in major arguments. It was wrong of me. But it was my way of controlling the argument. This is why I have been really considering leaving, but it is very frowned upon here. Plus I know it would give her ammunition. She will tell the kids that I left them. I can't stand to be away from my kids. Don't know what to do:(