Just for future reference, I came to this forum for help with my marriage. And hopefully some others to talk to because it is very hard going through all this alone. I came here for support and I also thought I would get some help from people who have been through this. I came here to learn about myself and to get advice from people that know. Some of us might be a little slower than others. Yes, I ask alot of questions. I want to learn. I want to do the right thing. It does not help when there are replies that make me dumb for bringing up a topic. Or that I was stupid because I never noticed problems in my marriage. Sometimes the replies I get make me not want to post or ask questions. Maybe I am being misunderstood in what I am saying.
No, don't feel this way about it. All of us get frustrated at some point. I may say something too bluntly or even harshly, but I never intentionally direct it to a person's inability to learn. This stuff is hard, and it's sensitive. It hits you in the most tender area. The LBS comes here in shredded pieces, and I don't know how they grasp anything!
Asking questions is good. As long as you are taking the time to search for the answers. Last night I was the one frustrated b/c I thought I had covered the issues you were questioning. Like I said, we all experience it. Don't feel as though anyone is attacking you, Joe. I truly don't believe that is anyone's intentions. Okay?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
