vge - H was being completely unfair before your cancer returned; however now that it has returned I am sure he trying to process everything. I have watched married men run away from their wives when they got cancer, just when the Ws wanted them most. The Hs are running away from their own fears. Your H was already running away from his fears before your diagnosis, this is probably making him run harder.

Big hug for you. You are not alone. Time to focus on you and not worry what is happening with H.

H: 48 Me: 47
Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs
2 teen-Ds and S
H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014)
D-Bomb: 2/2015
H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015
I filed: 7/2015