For the Newcomer LBH who has a wayward wife Part 2

[Joe46]

I know you think that we are ALL stating the same thing. Guess what, my wife never "nagged". My wife never talked about anything through most of our marriage. I tried to talk to her. She wouldn't talk about anything. In all our years together, we had one conversation where she said she wasn't happy. And I sat down and LISTENED. I told her I was sorry. I did not realize I had upset her. I told her I will work on these things. My wife and I both grew up in families that don't talk much about our feelings (unless we have had a few drinks). She was worse than I was. I wanted to talk things out. Ironically the one conversation we had when she was not happy in the relationship was when D graduated. Than we have problems when her other S graduates. I started to wonder if I was being used to help raise her kids!! So our first conversation was 2 years before her S graduated. I did change in those 2 years and she has told me that I did.

Just for future reference, I came to this forum for help with my marriage. And hopefully some others to talk to because it is very hard going through all this alone. I came here for support and I also thought I would get some help from people who have been through this. I came here to learn about myself and to get advice from people that know. Some of us might be a little slower than others. Yes, I ask alot of questions. I want to learn. I want to do the right thing. It does not help when there are replies that make me dumb for bringing up a topic. Or that I was stupid because I never noticed problems in my marriage. Sometimes the replies I get make me not want to post or ask questions. Maybe I am being misunderstood in what I am saying.