My WAW tried to "tell" me through weird ways that she was unhappy. One method was using playing a song and expecting me to listen to the message and figure it out.
She often said "This marriage is broken" usually before I went ot of town on business which ruined my whole business trip. When I got home, she was back to normal. I gave up trying to figure out what she was really saying. I would say I need a specific example of what you are talking about and she would always say "You should know, I shouldn't have to tell you". I am many things but a mind reader I am not.
When her grandmother died in August I was not there (in a diferent state) now that I look back on it, I can tell that she really wanted me to be there. I was working and should have gone home to be with her but honestly I just didn't get it. I missed that signal. She started he affair at the end of August. I am sure she and her AP bonded over the loss of her grandmother. They were most likely in constant contact via texting and emails during this time period.
Crud - so many missed signals and opportunities to connect with her.
I regret all of that so much. Now she is beyond reach and I have no opportunity to reach her at all. A devastating loss for me and my kids.
