For the Newcomer LBH who has a wayward wife Part 2

[Joe46]

Sandi, I have a question about this post. I can see how years of a W not getting her emotional needs met can push her over that edge. She starts thinking that it is time to think of herself and her emotional needs. But isn't this kind of saying, you didn't love me like I wanted to be loved so now I can find love elsewhere? I guess it confuses me some. I thought that we had talked about a WW and her actions are not justified because her bad things happened in her marriage? In my situation, I can see how I have handled things wrong. Not shown the love to my wife like she wanted. But I think that MC or couple retreats or just sitting down and actually talking are way better ways to handle things that doing things that make it worse." Keeping the road paved smooth" can also apply here I think. My wife has never sat down and sad, this bothers me when you do this or I want us to spend more time together or it hurts me when you act this way or say a certain thing. I would have at least known we had some problems.