Alpha - rollercoasting #3

[twinmom]

It is talked about her quite often where "we" as the left behind spouses want our partners to work on the marriage and know that the feelings will follow later......

You make a wonderful point in this post. It's the same for us, we need to make the change to see our partners (and the world) differently and the feelings will eventually follow.

It's hard, it doesn't feel comfortable and you most likely will backslide a lot..... but if you want to be happy in life you have to step out of your comfort zone.

Again think about this...
"You can either be right or be happy"

Which one do you choose?

^^^ This is your entire relationship in a very small nutshell. Not just parenting. Apply this to your life and you will notice a change in the world around you and the world will notice a change in you. Twinmom picked up on my anger and resentment pretty quick just through a wall of text. If she can do that, imagine what the rest of the world is seeing in your remaining body language. You've got to change your entire thought process. If you think negative thoughts about your wife you will react negatively towards her, period. But start with your actions and your mind will follow.