Kelly that does sound really stressful....especially having to live with the general fear that you will run into her somewhere....Also having lost friendships as a result, or not lost them, but having not to see them..
Have you read Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass? I highly recommend it and Laurie (DB COACH) recommended it to me. I just started working through it, but it approaches infidelity from all perspectives - yours, his, hers, and so one and talks about rebuilding.
I hear you about the DRAMA...in the past I was a drama queen. It's odd, I was not always a drama queen, or that is not the role i always played in relationships. However, H. is very detached and "calm" and the more dramatic I got through our various life crises the more detached he got and the more dramatic I got and so on, until I realized I was always in some kind of turmoil...Terrible cycle. I am looking forward to retraining myself to get out of it.
