Quote: The conversation got heated, I started crying, & then thankfully got a grip on myself and calmed down & said I had expected some backslides and that he would still have feelings for her. He then calmed down immediately. And we had a good conversation..he then said he was sorry and he had a panic attack when he had feelings for her, and said he had not expected to backslide.
Sounds like you're handling it beautifully. It's normal for where they are.
Another book on emotional reactivity. I could use that right now, so I'm going to look for it.
Keep doing exactly what you are doing!!
Try not to dwell on the OP, as hard as it can be. I heard from my H and a friend that OW was reportedly afraid of me (you'd laugh if you could see me). I wasted too much time thinking about the A rather than my M. It's a mistake you don't want to make, esp. while your H is home.
