Yeah, Wet. Feeling the weight of that responsibility to bring our spouse "back" even if not to a relationship with us was...crushing and not mine. For some, they would view that as controlling
A fine line between responsibility, caring and controlling to be sure.
For the taxes - my lawyer made it a point to get the order a particular way. Why? To ensure that I would get more of the deductions over time than my ex. I had 50/50 custody though so it was pretty cut and dry that it had to happen.
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As I look back at our M, I see our problems in talking with each other. W and I did not have many fights, mainly b/c we both avoided talking about difficult issues. The fact that I waited until today to bring this up is an example of this. We both are annoyed with each other right now, and so maybe this is heading to court sooner rather than later.
So I wonder. Perhaps a learning moment? Any judgment on whether or not this approach was a good thing for 22 years? I mean, it seemed to work for the duration of the relationship, right? But something changed before you changed this.
Might also be good to get some agreement in place before it becomes an issue next year.
And S13 - did you get her to sign right there when she offered? She can have the deductions if you have son till he's 18?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
