Newbie needs advice and encouragement

[Kramer]

Thanks everybody for your good and heartfelt advice. I agree that a lawyer is going to be necessary in order to protect my interests. I have an appointment in Wednesday and will file my disputed reply to dissolution at that time. I have no doubt as to the outcome, since california is 50/50 community property for debts and assets, but I don't relish the thought of spending $3000-$10,000 each. Ugh.

I think the biggest benefit of getting a lawyer, though, will be the ability to extricate myself from the situation and allow me to detach properly and completely. Time for me to stop thinking about what should be, and look at what is.