Quote: Also, has anyone been somewhat fearful of the OP? I mentioned before that I am anxious person normally, so that is part of it, but I am afraid that she will escalate and do something to harm me, my H., or the baby the more he pulls away from her. Is this crazy thinking? Any thought stopping techniques work for anyone other than the stop sign? (stop sign is not doing it for me.) One thing is, everytime I see her, I become angry at H. again for choosing an OP who works with us. She is also a doctoral student, NOT one of ours...he is not evaluating her, but nonetheless there are power issues here that concern me.
OW should be afraid of you, not the other way around. Does OW seem unstable? Is that why you're fearful?
Blow her off, why should you even talk to her. It's going to be kind of hard to hide it especially if you all work today, just the dynamics and your feelings are going to alert coworkers that something might be up. Some might already know or suspect, but that's just my opinion.
Focus on you, she is a plaything, and really isn't important. It's going to be hard for you H since he does work with OP and you as well.
Can't respond to the doctorate/power issues you fear. Exactly why would those be and how would they affect your H?
