Mighty It isn't freaking - it would have been at one time, but that is the point. I have detached and moved on.
I really related to your post about how much you loved your xh. I ached with love for my xh, and the loss of him seared my soul. It was like being too close to a great fire, while being frozen out for someone who was using him.
The helplessness of the lbs to do anything is part of the crippling effect that deailng with a mlcer can have. Detaching from the madness is the only way we can save ourselves.
You are having a second crash course in this, but all the lessons from round one are kicking back in, and you will be fine. There is no point denying the hurt, pain etc, and we tell ourselves comforting stories about better people coming into our lives.
Well, they do, but we do not always get what we think we want!
I worry about people who have a life plan - guildelines maybe, but it can close us fatally to what life really has to offer.
However I can do without the kind of surprise that MLC gave me!!
There are many heroes and heroines on these boards, but know you are one of them.
