the forward and back progress is normal. sounds like you're doing the right things -- focusing on the stuff you can control, self soothing, etc (yah, it was me that recommended the Jack Kornfield tapes!). FWIW, I think it's a very positive sign that h talks with you about his feelings and confusion.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
