My WAW filed for divorce 5 months ago today. She is still living 3 1/2 hrs away and I am by myself in our townhome. I keep going to counseling, a divorce support group and even tried karaoke for the 1st time! I was always too chicken to get up there - but I did it!
Ok...this week, I realized I still didn't receive our water/electric bill from the town we live in - it is in her name and gets forwarded to her Mom's.
Anyhow, I finally got her attention (by mentioning I'd send a screen shot of my request to my attorney) about getting it changed into my name, she responded and, to me, sounded very unhappy. She was saying many mean, vindictive things.
So I sent her this text last night: We both have a part in this divorce. It's actually really sad for me to hear that you don't sound very happy. Maybe I wasn't the entire cause of all your unhappiness? Couldn't the MS, ruptured disks, and migraine headaches have something to do with it too? I did my best to support a spouse with many physical ailments--something you'll probably never understand. I can look myself in the mirror and say that I did my best. I am still willing to try to work things out between us but it seems very obvious you made up your mind a long time ago. Silly me, I thought if I got the proper help you'd look back and be compassionate and understanding and realize that that wasn't the true Bob around the time you left. The great part of all of this is I feel so much better about myself and look forward to a wonderful future--with or without you. Take care, please.
My WAW responded about 2 hrs later: I never said I wasn't happy, I just said I'm having a flare-up of MS which is never welcome and that I have a ton of paper work to do which is never very fun. Otherwise, I've been making friends, I haven't cut my hair since October so it's getting really long. I've also hi-lighted it so it's nice and blonde. I went to dinner with Peggy and a friend at a really cool place for dinner tonight. No I wouldn't say I'm unhappy, just the contrary. Oh, and by the way - it was mostly you.
I never replied to her text, but thought it was childish of her to write "Oh, and by the way - it was mostly you."
Then, this afternoon I got this from her: Listen, before this phone goes out, I don't want to leave things on bad terms. I would like to be on good terms after all this is over. If you can keep the townhouse, that would be great because then you could save the tree that has meant so much to both of us. Do me a favor, don't tell me what your attorney says about me because I personally don't give a rat's ### what she says. Besides, I don't tell you what my attorney says because that could also be hurtful and I know some things that you don't know. I don't need to bother you with those things either. I think we are both getting stressed out with this whole thing, I personally would like to get it all done as soon as possible. But the more paperwork, the longer and longer it stretches out costing you more money! It's your choice. Take care of yourself as well, I hope you will have a good future.
Folks--I don't know what to make of all this. Someone, please let me know what you think. I suppose I should be very thankful that she mentioned leaving on good terms. Is this something a WAS normally says?
Thank you very much in advance.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
