Zelda

Easy this all takes time. H has lost control and he will be suffering. The abuse is blown wide open, you are free to talk about it with whomever you please, whenever you please. Silence on abuse is tough on you.

There are a couple of Ted Talks which are inspirational including this one:
TEDEx why domestic violence partners don't leave

Now, Z, open the floodgates on THIS incident, you have the proof, a flat mate who was in attendance. This thread can be your journal.

When you are ready flesh out your incident log, dates, times, and be as specific as you can. It will help you to read it. Any documents, calls texts and recordings, photos. broken pottery etc. The courts can adjust fins for this. For example dates H stopped work, cash input to the M. Examples gaslighting eg keys. Dates calls were blocked. Try an online diary app. Examples of intimidation etc.

For the time being be kind as you can to Z, you need sleep, rest, exercise, good food and company. You could also look at Patricia Evans books in due course, they are reasonable on recovery strategies for you.

Please keep posting, this is very hard reality to face. (((((((Hugs)))))))

V

Last edited by Vanilla; 03/20/15 10:54 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW