*after I'm gone (moved out).

What everyone told me here in the very beginning: life has to teach her a lesson.

I don't mind her knowing that I love her and that I believe in my marriage. That's what I think. I don't want to play games anymore!!!! I stand for my believes. Period. Eventually I will gain a lot of respect for that. For myself, from others and one day from W. She doesn't even believe I love her truly. That I'm selfish.
Only if I truly stand up for myself she might realize one day. I tend to not come across the right way. Language barrier maybe and problems expressing myself the right way.

My W is stubborn like hell, and she can't deal properly with stressful situations. She goes out of control like this.

So I'm taking the high road, stand for what I believe in, but give her the freedom she wants to have. I'll let her go, what can I do? I can make myself feel better, do the right thing, so I can be in peace with myself.

And that eventually IS attractive! In my opinion.


Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15