Complex No. 6 - The turtle and the rabbit

[Complex]

Starsky, what should I do instead?
Give in? Move out? Say nothing? Validate more? I'm lost what to say in those situations. She is putting so much pressure on me in those conversations.

Purpose of this is to actually gain respect back for what I stand for. By consistency.
She knows I love her and think differently, it's obvious. ALL forms of reattaching her failed utterly so far. I did a lot of things right, moving forward with a lot of actions, not words. Of course there's no real consistency to it because it's only a month or so but I have to make clear: she made up her mind. Before she doesn't hit fkn rock bottom herself...after i am home, NOTHING is gonna change her mind. Not Amt time soon. Its a fact.
But I utterly fail responding in the best way to her.