Complex No. 6 - The turtle and the rabbit

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And now she told me she contacted a lawyer. And also started threatening me with my greencard. Just wow.
I thought I was very straight forward and calm in the conversation. I don't know...how did this look from the outside?
We continued the conversation for a bit and I think I did an ok job. I'll post some of it later.

It was rough but my detachment is there and it feels sooo good to take the hgh road. I'm really trying also not to sound passive aggressive, but somewhere I must have failed due to her responses. She even tried to bribe me, move out or....greencard. To this I just made clear in not letting myself bribe.
And that I cannot talk to her like this.

Oh man. Super tough BUT SOMEHOW I FEEL GOOD!!! I might not have done the best thing DB wise. Maybe I could have worded things differently, and clearly do more of what works failed because this didn't work at all, but at least I feel good about myself taking the high road. Any criticism is welcome tho. I'm sure I'm still not fully doing/saying the rift things.
Maybe I shouldn't even get into those discussions but for a fact I know that works even worse bc it's building up extreme frustration for W.