For the Newcomer LBH who has a wayward wife Part 2

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Sandi - This so much describes my situation and my WW.

I never thought I fit into this forum very well because my wife never said she wanted to divorce me, never left, never was verbally abusive or even angry. Just disrespectful with the lies told and secretes that she had. She just continued to live a double life that she tried to hide as well as she could (and she got very good at it) - and lied to me and everyone else about it. It seemed like this is exactly what she wanted.

Now, when she says she wants back in to our M, she is not indicating that she wants to do any work to get there. She only wants to get closer. This to, to me, may only be a more highly advanced cover of what she may actually want - both (with me as the family and him as the - you know).

The minute I pushed back with some things that I needed - NC & transparency, she lost what seemed like momentum in her return. In fact she has refused to give me anything that I have asked for.

If I let her back as easily as she seems to want it, without seeing any real changes in her, I don't think that I will trust again. I will always be looking for signs of OM or another OM.

Sandi- Thank you so much for starting this thread and continuing with sharing your wisdom. You are awesome.