Thanks all, we ended up having an actual productive and respectful R talk today; about our core issues and where they started...not about the A. It's not really about the A for me anymore. That was a symptom.

Afterwards she asked me where we were. I just told her that I see where she's coming from, and I'm no longer sure we're repairable. That's not just manipulation. It's true. Two months ago I would have opposed S; now I'm thinking it's the right thing for me. We need to be out of each other's faces, and I need the quiet to figure out if this M is really what I want anymore.




Last edited by Rzrback; 03/20/15 09:15 PM.
Ex Rzrback
Me 43 Her 44
D11, D15
T21, M19
BD 9/9/2014
Piecing

Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood