Complex No. 6 - The turtle and the rabbit

[Complex]

Dinner cancelled. Grandma doesn't feel well. Postponed.

I just scheduled my last session with my DB coach due to a text conversation with W. She accidentally sent a text to me instead of a friend of hers, saying she is super emotional right now, wants to cry, because she just had a conversation with a coworker that I don't want to move out and it's annoying her. Then she was like "oops wrong person, sorry"

I just replied "sorry you are feeling down".
Then we had a little discussion via text, not my favorite way of communication but I had to set some boundaries.
This was a crucial conversation to the extend that it will come up more often from now on and I think I have to protect myself and my position and take the high road. Would be great if someone could evaluate this if I presented kyself ok, because W still thinks I act like a child, although I clearly drew some lines there:

W: we need separate homes. What do you say? We are breaking up and we can't live like this forever.
M: Maybe not forever, I'm just saying that I am staying in the home that's also mine. You are free to do what you want. I'm sorry it's affecting you negatively and that you are emotional
W: And you say you don't want to stand in my way but you are. So what is keeping you from moving out? Money? I'll give you money.
M: This is not my idea and I am not going to do any actions towards a divorce myself. Please respect that
W: so I have to force you and I'll end up hating you for it. I keep giving you time but not anymore.
M: I'm sorry if you feel that way that you will hate me.
W: you are living in denial and won't leave, it's pathetic. We have no marriage. I won't be nice anymore
M: I appreciate you are working with me, giving me the opportunity to stay
I am not in denial. Denial means I don't realize what you want but I do but I have my own believes, I am a free human being.
W: you are blocking me from moving forward. That's not love. It's called being selfish
M: Not wanting a D is not selfish. I have my own values
W: ok then let's live like this forever, you make no sense. You are fkn ridiculous, is it your value to stay in an unhappy marriage or are you just afraid of walking away from sth that isn't right?
M: I know you and I know me and I believe in marriage and we had a great time together. I am ready to work on a deeper relationship. I want one too.
But that's MY believe
W: you can't force me. For the last time: I don't want this! If you want to force someone to be married buy a slave.
M: I'm sorry to hear that but I'm not going to force you to do anything
W: in your head you think if you stick around it'll all be good but that's not realistic!
M: I do not think that
W: if you don't want to move out the police will, is that what you want (remember the grant deed we signed says it is my wife's property, which kind of screws me over legally on this, but my money is in here too and we didn't even sign that intentionally)
M: I'm moving on with or without you but I believe in marriage. I do not want to fight, I respect your feelings but please respect mine too. What's right for you might not be right for me.
W: yes breakups suck. But I'm not staying married to you because it's better for you. It's my life too.
M: m sticking with my personal boundaries but I don't want to take advantage of you financially. I only wanted to get married once in my life.
W: things don't always turn out the way we want. That's live. Deal with it, you are acting like a child.
M: I took a vow and I'm sticking with it. I feel good about it. I am doing the right thing.
But I will not stand in your way. Please respect though that I won't take any actions my own towards my own divorce. That's not acting like a child, it's standing for something. I'm sorry if this sounds contradictory to how I acted last year in our marriage. I didn't live up to it.