For the Newcomer LBH who has a wayward wife Part 2

[alpha99]

Sandi,

I have read a lot of your posts and your insight is great. I have a thread in the infedilty section but I was wondering if you had an opinion on how to approach face to face contact with WAW when SHE has the kids and seems to be in control. A lot of the situations I read about have the WAW have a PA, go off and do crazy things, and have LBH picking up the pieces with bills/house/kids.

I have the reverse in that somehow W has engineered it that although she had affair, separated from me, wants a divorce, she has moved out and has our kids. I'm meeting her later for first time in a week with kids. Part of the reason we've git to this specific point is because of my crying/begging/pleading/desperation in terms of threats to expose A and stupidly to commit suicide (not seriously meant but still said).

I wonder how many others have done things so wrong in the beginning of a S that they have pushed the balance of power regarding kids, decision making etc to the WAW who it seems should be the one outcast from the family setting for her actions, not relocating it and having the LBH be outcast.

Although this is specific to me it may help others in a similar situation.