It really helps all the support and the ideas of how to manage my situation with H. I am almost getting used to this scenario.
I keep it to myself, do not answer to his claims of being a victim and then he text me a thousand times, always trying some excuse to disrupt my life.
Amazing as it is, RD helped me big time. That little innocent play of meeting him one day made me think that life can be better. I am not dead, I do not have a bad sickness, my kids are with me, I will probably keep the house and I am alive, thinking that I can love again and that I have been learning a lot about how to be a better partner and have a healthier R then the one a had before.
Life is short and in my age is not the best thing to wast time and energy on someone that don't do anything else besides hurt you and your family.
RD shows value and respect for his family. Deals with the every day ordeals and stick to it. It makes me think that there are good people out there.
RD has is humble to admit he made mistakes, but has the courage to say he wants to change and work hard on making things better. He does not quit, he works. So, it helps to have hope that there may be more RDs in this world and it is not worth to wast my time and energy in someone that just wants to hurt me.
So, thanks RD, you were a good inspiration for a better tomorrow and gave me the support I need to keep it together today.
I did not answer to all the messages I got today. Like TO said, I took the time to think and decided to meet with H on saturday afternoon, go over the finances and be all business. And like V said, think only about the numbers. My L said that it helps my case to be polite, helpful and have H in my side, it even help more if he is feeling guilty and has his attention on the OW for now.
So be it, I will gather all my strength and face this meeting with grace. I own this to my children and myself. I am very upset with my H. I understand he may be an MLCer, but all what he made the kids and I to go through is really painful. I want distance, a lot of distance from him. Maybe one day things will change and we can be friends, but now I just want to be far from him and stop the craziness cycle.
