I need a new career for myself. One major thing that my M has allowed to happen is for me to use it as a shield to hide away from going out into the world and making something of myself. I look around at friends who aren't half as clever (not being big headed here at all) and they make far more money. The difference between them and me is that I have always been incredibly shy and reluctant to meet new people. I have been working on this.
The our possessions comment was just a quick way of writing things out. I do see them as ours simply because they are in our house. Upon splitting what is left they will become mine and hers. I have no problem with seeing the remaining things that way.
I know my W has changed forever. She will never be the same person she was before. I don't mind that. She was lacking in confidence, shy, miserable because she had no/very few friends and a poor social life. Apart from her lying, R issues, she has changed in many positive ways herself; more confident, more independent, a stronger and resilient person. If we were to be together at some point in the future I'd have no problem living with her new positive aspects. The lying/cheating/the apparent lack of consideration for my feelings etc would have to change.
You can "burn" someones lying out of them. Well maybe not you alone, but multiple people and groups can.
I believe you will excel in your career. The one thing your friends did who did it, is they took the initiative. You have to take the initiative and don't make excuses.
Focus on "attraction", what that means for a man. I think your wife can choose you as a dominant and secure male with a lot going on for himself. Your will have to mingle and get out there in life a bit.
