So now I am super nervous. Since my www moved out of our house she refuses to pay her half of the mortgage. My l is asking for her to contribute 50% and feels reasonably confident but I don't at all. I don't have a good feeling about this. Maybe I should have just left med. on the table and be done with it. So confusing and anxiety provoking.
1. Once my WAW gets the letter she will be ANGRY
2. What if I lose this? She will gloat, I will have lost money and feel like a greedy pig.
3. I still don't want this divorce 😔.
So confused and sad. Trying to do the smart thing but I just don't know anymore. My confidence is shot and I am feeling low.
Someone just told me that liberation is the feeling that Wayward wife is feeling. The LBS is feeling dejection and sadness. That just stuck me as true - that is how they are feeling, regarldess of how many people they hurt and how many things they must sacrifice. For them it's all worth it - freedom at last.
That is beyond sad.
I just had to comment on this. I realize that it is an older post, but I know exactly how you feel.
Like you, I am the LBS and am doing my best to GAL and string together a few successive days where I don't feel so sad and like I'm a failure.
She, on the other hand, remains involved with her affair partner and cannot see the destruction and pain that she has caused, and not just with me. She lives M-F with her son in a separate hosehold, and goes to the OM's house every weekend. She has yet to incorporate her family with him and his family, and thinks it is perfectly appropriate to have 2 separate and parallel lives. She has completely written my children off as well. All in the interest of spending time with her new "soulmate".
Sad indeed.
Kramer - I just had to react to this - she will not see the destruction until she is out of the A. Right now this is all she is focused on. Why not use that to your advantage? You know where she is mentally - build a plan based on that.
Not quite sure how to do that, unfortunately.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
For example - you know she is "in love" with her AP - your job is to carry on like it's irrelevant - you do your thing
1. You know she will act selfishly 2. You know she is only thinking about AP 3. She could care less if you are down or depressed - she just doesn't care 4. There is nothing you can do to snap her out of it - it's about her - not you
Feel self worth and respect yourself by living a good life with your children and show them how a real man acts with integrity and pride. Tell them she is having to work out some issues on her own and let her do her thing.
I suggest being the opposite of everything the AP Is - he obviously has low character because he is participating in causing so much pain. Some people just don't care. You are not one of those people. You honor your vows and live the best life you can. Once her bubble bursts which it will - she will look to you - the question is will you be there or will you have moved on to another chapter in your life. You can outsmart this and outlast it. Make a plan, execute the plan and be the man!!
