I know I probably shouldn't have done what I did. Are short visits a good or bad thing. We find away to bump into each other everyday but no more than like 15 minutes. Is that because she has enough at that point or is it a defense mechanism.
Errod. Correct, you shouldn't have done that. Its pursuing to her and just setting yourself up for disappointment. You wanted to test to see if you get a certain reaction from her, and then you don't. Even if you excepted the exact reaction she had, your still setting yourself up for disappointment because of hidden expectations you might not even realize you have.
Much like you I think about W all the time and obsess about every action she may be doing. Trying to understand why she does this and piece actions/words together so I can get an idea of what shes really thinking. Its not good, it leads to your sanity taking massive dives and it only gets worse the more you do it. You will notice things that shes does, you cant stop that, but trying to put meaning to them only hurts you over time.
Detach.
Short visits or long visits, at the end of the day it really doesn't matter. Until she actually says the words and makes a commitment to rebuilding your marriage, nothing she does or says means anything concrete.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
