Thanks Toots, I appreciate your support and encouragent. I have been asked about the male version in the past, but I am very hesitant to speak on behalf of the WH. I thought maybe a former WH would pop in here one day and help us out. We have had LBH'S to admit to cheating in their M, but they never spoke of their wayward mindset. I only remember one man starting a thread who referred to himself as the cheater or adulterer, but he didn't stay very long, and I don't recall him ever talking about the specifics, the way I have tried to bring out about the WW. He just sounded so sad and unhappy, as if his W was punishing him by making him tell his story.
I actually wrote out a post in response to your request, then I thought, "Meh, what do I know?" (ha). It was a long one, too, if you can believe it. .
Seriously, I believe there are some differences b/c of the dynamics and complexity in the husband - wife relationship. I just don't know that I could do a very satisfactory job at explaining it. It would be, after all, mostly my personal VP. Since I have never been a wayward husband, all I have is what I've read over the years, and observed in others.........and my memory isn't worth much for book references.
If I knew how to give short advice, (ahem) I would say the same advice basically applies to both sexes.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
